BLOG: The Relationship Report Card: An A La Cart Activity for a State of Your Union Check In
In the fast-paced world we live in today, it's easy for couples to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily life. Between work, family, and other commitments, it's not uncommon for couples to drift apart or neglect their relationship's health. That's why taking the time to invest in intimacy and get connected to the State-of-Your-Union is crucial for a thriving partnership.
Connecting and aligning together is the foundation of a healthy relationship.
Fine is a Slippery Slope to F’d Up!
When I ask someone how their relationship is doing, “fine” is a quite common response. “Fine” may sound fairly benign, but it’s actually quite dangerous. “Fine” is a slippery slope to f’d up!
Most couples don’t give their relationship much attention until there’s a problem, but by that time, you’re in a conflict, you’re not at your most creative or connected, resulting in a more adversarial approach.
Or they make the common mistake of just putting their relationship on autopilot assuming it will just take care of itself. News flash - A healthy, happy and hot relationship TAKES SOMETHING!
"The greatest of faults, I should say, is to be conscious of none." - Thomas Carlyle
Investing In Intimacy
How can you ensure that you and your beloved are on the same page and moving in the right direction together?
One way to pave the path to more fun, play and ease together is to whip out the For Better Love Relationship Report Card and use it to check in with how you’re currently doing, what needs are, or are not, being met and to move forward towards what you both want together.
Think of the Relationship Report Card as a clear, structured, yet fun way to assess and improve your connection and bring you closer to getting more of what you both want. "We are most alive when we're in love." - John Updike
Options Are Awesome!
Every relationship is unique. YOU know what you need the most and what activities you and your beloved will respond to the best. Each time you do a Relationship Report Card, the agenda and experience will be different. Each time you'll create a customized agenda by selecting different activities based on what works best for you two in the moment.
With changing schedules and needs, this tool can be modified to suit whatever you’ve got going on and how much time you have to touch base.
Only have 30 minutes? No problem! Want to dive deeper? This activity guide has you covered.
Experiment with the time and timing that works best for you and your beloved. Weekly, monthly, quarterly or once a year, find the rhythm and HABIT that nourishes your connection and turns your shared dreams into celebrated realities.
Whether you do this activity once a year or once a week, there’s a fitting format for fulfilling your current needs. Find the rhythm and HABIT that nourishes your connection and turns your shared dreams into celebrated realities.
"Variety is the spice of life, that gives it all its flavor." - William Cowper
The Relationship Report Card is an a la cart activity guide to...
- Connect & Align Together: It's easy for couples to drift apart when they don't take the time to connect. The Relationship Report Card encourages you to align your desires and priorities regularly.
- Check in with how you're doing as a couple: Clarity and transparency about how you’re doing as individuals and as a couple…?
- Clear the air around any challenges or conflicts: Unresolved conflicts can fester and erode the foundation of a relationship. This tool prompts you to address and resolve issues, ensuring a healthy flow of communication.
- Create and Fulfill Shared Goals & Dreams: Translate the "What IS" about your relationship into your "What's NEXT": Setting and achieving shared goals is essential for long-term happiness. The Relationship Report Card allows you to identify your goals and dreams as a couple and take steps to make them a reality.
Use the various activity options to check in, connect and re-align towards what you BOTH want again and again AND again.
"Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow." - Swedish Proverb
5 Key Categories
Your a la cart agenda options for your State-of-Our-Union meeting are organized into five key categories:
- Opening Options: Arrive, connect and start off on the right foot.
- Check In & Scoring: Take the current temp of your relationship.
- Goals & Games: Create new goals or check in with existing ones.
- Clearing, Completing & Creating: Clear the air, complete any conflicts.
- Conscious Close: Wrap up and set yourselves up for the next time.
Each of these categories includes multiple options for customizing a conversation that supports you both.
Creating Your State-of-Our-Union Agenda
Each time you conduct a Relationship Report Card session, the agenda and experience will be different. Whether you have 5 minutes, 5 hours or 5 days, here's how you can customize your State-of-Our-Union agendas.
- Consider Your Time: Depending on how much time you have, you can choose activities from all five sections or focus on just a few. Be sure to include at least one opening and one closing activity for each session.
- Prioritize Your Topics: Identify which topics are most important to you and your partner at the moment. Are you focused on improving communication, setting new goals, or resolving conflicts? Tailor your agenda accordingly.
- Choose Your Activities: Select activities that interest both you and your partner. The Relationship Report Card offers a variety of options, so you can mix and match to create a personalized experience.
"The art of life lies in a constant readjustment to our surroundings." - Kakuzo Okakura
What You Water Grows
Investing in your relationship is like tending to a garden – it requires regular care and attention. A strong relationship is built by the commitment to keep growing TOGETHER.
By consistently investing in intimacy and taking the time to connect with your partner through the Relationship Report Card, you'll create a bond that grows stronger over time. Don't wait until your relationship is in crisis to check in; make it a habit to nurture your connection, celebrate your shared dreams, and keep passion alive.
The State-of-Your-Union is an ever-evolving journey. Make your relationship check-ins a priority, and you'll enjoy the rewards of a loving, thriving partnership.
"Love is not about possession, love is about appreciation." - Osho
Masterclass & PLAYbook
Choose from 31 different activities ranging from one minute to two hours each. Create your own customized agenda and access your next level of loving and living. Watch the Masterclass and grab a copy of the PLAYbook today!
"Play is the highest form of research." - Albert Einstein
- Get a copy of the PLAYbook with the 31 a la cart activity options.
- Make an appointment: at a time that works for both you and your beloved. Finding time is rarely easy. Make the time or you’ll pay the price!
- Consider how much time you have: Depending on how much time you have, you can choose activities from all five sections or focus on just a few. Be sure to include at least one quick opening and one closing activity for each session.
- Prioritize your topics: Identify which topics are most important to you and your partner at the moment. Are you focused on improving communication, setting new goals, or resolving conflicts? Tailor your agenda accordingly.
- Choose and complete your activities: Select activities that interest both you and your partner. The Relationship Report Card offers a variety of options, so you can mix and match to create a personalized experience.
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