BLOG: Admit It And Take Action
If you don’t admit that there is an area of your relationship that is calling out for attention, then you won’t take action.
Why take action when there isn’t an issue in the first place?
Well look around. How’s it going? Do you wish you have few fights, have better sex, and more fun?
You’ve likely heard this saying before…
”If you keep DOING what you’ve been doing, you’ll keep GETTING what you’ve been getting.”
What they are talking about is your PROBABLE FUTURE.
And what’s probable is that like most couples, you will ultimately fall prey to the slow but deadly “drift of default” and end up spending more and more time and energy arguing and having less and less time having great sex and other fun that healthy couples get to enjoy.
If you keep doing what you’re doing, what’s YOUR probable future?
Little Things Become Big Things WAAAAAY TOO OFTEN
Is a lot of fighting part of your probable future?
The default relationship probable future is usually complaining, bickering, and outright fighting about just about anything you can think of.
Money, chores, sex, kids, jealousy, everyday stress, who deserves more “me time”, where to go on vacation or whose family to spend the holidays with.
Little things become big things waaaaay too often. Little things like if the seat is up or down, what to watch on TV, directions in the car, when to take out the trash, and on and on.
Is a predictable, stale or nearly non-existent sex life part of your probable future?
For most couples, it starts out hot and uber active then over time cools until your sex life is so lifeless, it might as well be dead.
You do the same things again and again – and pretty soon, you just don’t do much of anything at all anymore.
So Go Ahead – ADMIT IT!
The best way to change what you are getting is to change what you are doing. The best way to change what you are doing is to ADMIT that what you are doing is not working and that it is time to try something new.
So go ahead, do yourself, your partner, and your relationship a huge favor – admit it…
NOTE: Admitting it and taking action, does NOT mean admitting it, labeling yourself, your partner and the relationship, and getting cynical and resigned about your probable future. We don’t want you to “get stuck in the muck”.
We’re just inviting you to acknowledge that you want something more than your current probable future so you can set about taking action to make it so.
It takes strength and courage to admit you want something more in your relationship and to take action on it instead of passively expecting something to magically happen all on its own or worse, giving up entirely.
1. Look down the road in your mind's eye. Imagine if you and your partner kept doing your relationship as you have been doing it, getting what you've been getting. Write down what you imagine that might look like, 1, 3, 5, 10 years down the road.
2. Write down 3 things in your relationship that you are "admitting" there is an issue with, and that you wish was better. Write down 3 possible next steps to take for each.
3. Pick on first step and take it within 24 hours.
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