Healthy Habits for Introvert / Extrovert Couples PLAYbook Get intentional and HABITUAL about time together, apart and with others. The Introvert/ Extrovert angst is a REAL thing. Being so different from your beloved in your desires around time alone, time together and time with others can be difficult, stressful and a source of endless arguing OR it can be a delightful difference embracing the best of both worlds. You can be frustrated, get triggered and grow distant due to these differences and it would not be your fault. This is a COMMON conflict. But you are NOT stuck with it. That annoying angst CAN be transformed from an oil and water aversion to a chocolate and peanut butter appreciation.This default dynamic may be so ingrained and so annoying that it feels almost impossible to shift it, but you CAN. I know, I’ve done it in my own marriage and with the couples I coach too. You CAN turn these seemingly opposite attitudes into surprisingly awesome advantages. What is different about you two CAN be what is most delightful about you! What it takes is awareness of your desires, patterns, triggers and healthy ways to get your needs me. It takes the intention to learn from the mishaps and to Love Better next time. It takes your attention so you do not drift into default mode. It takes your action, even if that’s in baby steps. Still - it does NOT have to be so hard! It CAN be easy and fun, IF you make it a practice and a HABIT. A little awareness, intention, attention and action around Healthy HABITS can go a very long way. Even if you’re really struggling with this common conflict, you can create change now. It doesn’t have to be a big thing or the best thing. Just do SOMEthing. When you don’t know where to start, just start. Explore this PLAYbook, find or create options for what works for you both, then make that a HABIT!
I have Masters degree in Education, Counseling and Guidance and 25 years of coaching and teaching experience, it is my own “messy-to-magical” marriage that allows my relationship guidance to be so spot on. My innovative methods are fiercely forward focused, gently shifting any negativity into concrete action steps. I'm a wiz at supporting couples in not just digging themselves out of a relationship ditch, but cultivating a couple culture of "aiming for awesome".Learn more