Often, when a couple comes to me to "work on" or even "save" their relationship, they can tend to want to "trauma share" and dissect the details of their relationship problems... Who did what, why their partner is wrong, annoying, not doing their part, etc. They can slip into a negative, "problem pathologizing" spiral that goes nowhere (or worse explodes into something even bigger), fast. It DOESN'T have to be this way! When one beloved blames, the other beloved defends. It’s relationship math. Then you’re on a slippery slope that can easily turn a misunderstanding or bad day into a messy fight with deep and lasting impact. Wouldn't it be easier, more enjoyable and so much less draining to focus on SOLUTIONS rather than getting "stuck in the muck" or dissecting dramas? Can you imagine the difference in your relationship and day-to-day life if you were focused as allies aiming for awesome rather than adversaries at odds over every little thing? Move BEYOND blame! Create a VISION for what you BOTH want. Don't settle for DEFAULT, DESIGN your relationship for DELIGHT! Creating a Marriage Map sets your relationship up for a major SHIFT from fixing problems as adversaries to aiming for awesome as ALLIES. You can get much better results (and have a more enjoyable experience), IF you create a clear shared description of the kind of relationship you BOTH want most. Check out this Masterclass and get support to ditch the drama and lean into Loving Better by creating your own relationship vision aka Marriage Mantra.